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Post by girliepurple on May 25, 2006 11:09:14 GMT -5
Mikki, is your DH the same size he was 24 yrs. ago and fits into his high school jeans?? My DBF is - he has no concept of weight management or why anyone would be overweight, he doesn't understand the concept of overeating...he eats fruits and vegetables, lean meats and grains, every once in a blue moon feels like dessert so he has it....exercises infrequently.... and has maintained the same 5 lb. weight range for as long as I have known him. I weigh less than him for only about the 3rd time in 25 yrs....anyway I was wondering if your DH was the same way.
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Post by mikkid24 on May 25, 2006 12:33:21 GMT -5
Oh, absolutely not--he has gained quite a bit, especially recently (6'0" and 250+ lbs. now). When I first started WW in 2000 I outweighed him by about 10 lbs., but now he outweighs me by at least 90 lbs. He was never a small guy to begin with; he has the football player physique and didn't have a neck even when he was thin.  Since our kids are away at college it has been easy to cook for two and he eats what I eat (core). However, he's on his own for breakfast and lunch, and there is also constant food at his office (lots of heavy people at his workplace). I did stock him a plastic drawer container full of healthy snacks for his office, which he has appreciated. He's lost a some weight, but really doesn't exercise (he's quite the workaholic) except when I drag him out for a walk or hike. He says he wants to lose weight but is unwilling (he'd say "unable to commit the time", but we all know that excuse!) to work for it. I'd love for him to lose weight but as we all know, he's the one that has to make the decision to commit to it. |
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Post by katelight on May 26, 2006 6:10:09 GMT -5
Complicated is the word for sure. I don't have a problem with DH thinking I'm being selfish, but I have a problem with myself, and I think it's as you said Mikki, food I can share, clothes,pedicure.... I only do for myself.
So how do we get to the point that we no longer reward or console ourselves with food? It goes so much deeper than just a desire to do so. From the begining of time we have been programmed to eat. How do we lesson the intensity of our instincts?
I think we can start by really thinking about when and where and why we eat. Am I truly hungry? Am I tired, lonley, bored, sad, happy, anxious. I have found that writting down some of my thoughts when I eat has been helpful. Thought provoking at the very least. Am I cured? NO, Do I have this all under control? No Am I making progress? Yes! For this week My goal is to really evaluate why I want to eat what I want to eat and see if I can find a pattern.
I'm with you Mikki, I am more comfortable in my own skin and more aware of who I really am and feel this is the best part of the journey too. Thank you for helping me to focus on these things again.
Take care
Katie
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Post by chelby29 on May 26, 2006 9:53:34 GMT -5
SlimChris,
When you discover your delicious, ethnic foods, please share your recipes. I'm new to Core and have lost 13.8 in 5 weeks --WooHoo!!!-- but, I'm missing some of my old favorites like Mexican, Chinese and Italian. I cannot go to the restaurants because I WILL make bad choices. I know there is more to the Core plan than baked chicken, veggies and salads, my personal rut.
I've really enjoyed reading this thread. It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one with food issues. Thank all of you for sharing.
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Post by Jonesy on May 26, 2006 14:16:39 GMT -5
This thread has been a wonderful read! And so pertinent to all of us. Personally I have to thank all of you for your insightful posts..... so much of what I would say has already been communicated here. "So how do we get to the point that we no longer reward or console ourselves with food? It goes so much deeper than just a desire to do so. From the begining of time we have been programmed to eat. How do we lesson the intensity of our instincts? " Kate - Please let me know when you figure out the answer to that question!!  |
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Post by nightsinge on May 26, 2006 14:34:27 GMT -5
I can speak only for myself, but when I get to the point when I am not consoling (one might say "medicating") myself with food, only then can I really look at what it is I am consoling myself -about-.
The dominant culture is all about ease of pain. From minor headaches to "chronic halitosis," we are tought that the merest problem (or instantaneous desire) must be instantly responded to or taken care of. As a society, we have entirely forgotten that 1) a little pain is ok once in a while and 2) pain is a message.
So is that hunger that isn't really a hunger. To me, if I never confront what it is about myself that I really am trying to mask, the food will always be standing by, ready to mask it.
Just my $.02 for the day! Hugs, everyone.
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Post by kally on May 26, 2006 17:59:20 GMT -5
Last night I wasn't hungry but I felt like noshing. So I walked over to my community garden and pulled weeds instead. Seemed fine. I know for me it is the "wandering hungries" just looking for something and food comes to hand.
When I do my craft (paper craft) I don't snack nearly anywhere near as much.
So I just had my lunch (flex)
stone wheat thins, bean spread that I make, salad with a bit of oil and some raisins.
Then I had graham crackers and am finishing my coffee.
Believe me I am NOT hungry. Could I eat; of course, you didn't even need to ask did you?
But if I get started on something engaging that will force me out of the food box.
So here I go, project make an origami book this afternoon. I should have the basics done in 2 hours.
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Post by rickyshot on Nov 2, 2006 14:27:18 GMT -5
Normal is the setting on my dryer in my house ;D But seriously I just love to eat. Now couple that with meds that make you hungry and it is HARD I tell you. I have never been a stress or emotional eater. I just love to eat. I am a good cook and baker and when eating already thinking of my next meal and tomorrows meals. If I have 2 cups of rice I will eat it and not feel full . Of course I put 1/2 to one cup on my plate on Core but I still have to measure or I will go out the box. My stomache is a bottomless pit. I am sure as stated above many of us have a physiological reason for this as well as mental ones that are not understood yet. I crave carbs all the time. No matter how long on Core and how good I am the cravings never go away.........What is that?  |
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